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Matthew 19: 3-12 – Week 19 Ordinary Time, Friday (King James Audio Bible KJV, Spoken Word)
3 ¶ The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
10 ¶ His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not good to marry.
11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is able to receive it, let him receive it.
Jesus tells us that, from the beginning, a man and a woman joined in marriage would become one flesh. There is this complementarity of man and woman in sexual union. Divorce marks a falling away from God’s intentions for men and women in marriage. It is an aberration, a failure of docility before God. Jesus tells us that Moses’ command (see Deuteronomy 24:1) was because of the hardness of people’s hearts in rejecting God’s initial ordering of male and female sexual relations. Indeed, it can be seen as a liberal command, protective of women, in that it required the husband to write out a certificate of divorce, freeing the woman rather than merely excluding and rejecting her. There is no real trap here for Jesus, as the Pharisees tempt him; God’s creation of man and woman to become one flesh in marriage remains truth.
As we read these Bible verses now, we may inevitably think of the celibacy of priests, of the issue of divorce in our time, and perhaps also of the various issues surrounding gay, or homosexual, relationships, in particular the issue of gay marriage. Perhaps we may also consider those more primitive societies in which violations of laws concerning sexual activity can lead to imprisonment and/or execution.
Jesus’ teaching is outside of his time, both reaching back to God’s original intentions and looking forward to that which will become acknowledged truth for Christians. Jesus’ very disciples think this is a hard teaching: If this is how it is to be between a man and his wife, they say, then it is not good to marry!
Jesus now speaks of different ways of living well as a man or a woman in relation to sexuality. It is good for a man or a woman to marry and to have children. It is an even more perfect sign of the life to come, for those few who can, to preserve one’s virginity and to live in a state of celibacy, consecrated to the Lord. Both marriage and celibacy can be considered two pillars of faith.
There is also understanding in these verses of those who have married and who have been divorced. Perhaps their marriage may be annulled. Perhaps it may be that, following on from the divorce, there will be no annulment, and so now the husband and wife are called to live a life of celibacy, for the Kingdom’s sake, true to their vows. This would be the way of perfection, while there should be understanding for those for whom this seems too much.
Many issues are touched upon in these verses regarding sexuality. We are called to keep our sexual selves sacred to God, and certainly never to put our sexual proclivities over and above our calling to be God’s people – which would be to set up a rival good to God’s. We are called to treasure our sexual being in the light of God’s love.
Concluding Prayer
Lord Jesus Christ,
who on the cross called the penitent thief into your kingdom,
in faith and trust and confessing our sins
we implore your mercy
that after our death
you will lead us rejoicing through the gates of paradise.
Who live and reign for ever and ever.
King James Audio Bible | Endnotes | Love Revealed By Jesus Christ
Two Shall Be One Flesh
The Gospel passage affirms the significance of marriage as a union of two people, a union that is ordained by God. Jesus quotes the words from the book of Genesis, which speaks about the creation of Adam and Eve and how they became one flesh. This unity is not only physical but also emotional and spiritual, where two people become one in all aspects of their lives.
The concept of marriage being a union between two people is further elaborated in the Epistle Of Saint Paul To The Ephesians. Saint Paul wrote: ‘For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.’ (Ephesians 5:31-32) Here, the union between a man and a woman is compared to the relationship between Christ and the Church, where both are united in a spiritual and emotional bond.
Throughout history, Christians have emphasized the sacredness of marriage as a covenant between two people. Saint Augustine of Hippo wrote about the importance of the unity between a man and a woman in his book The Good Of Marriage. Saint Augustine argued that marriage is a sacrament that is ordained by God, and that it is a means of sanctification for both partners.
In the Protestant tradition, Martin Luther, founder of the Lutheran Church, spoke about the importance of marriage in his treatise The Estate Of Marriage. Martin Luther argued that marriage is a divine institution and that it is necessary for the procreation and upbringing of children.
More recently, Pope Francis has spoken about the importance of marriage as a bond between two people. In his apostolic exhortation Amoris Laetitia, Pope Francis emphasizes the significance of the ‘one flesh’ union between a man and a woman, which is ‘not a mechanical or external reality, but rather a spiritual and profound one’ (Amoris Laetitia, 294).
There are people now who choose to think of Jesus simply as an extraordinary man, a wise man and a performer of miracles, and not as our saviour the Son of God. There were and are those who think of Jesus as a great prophet, whose mission was to reject Jewish sectarianism, and insurrection, and unite the Jewish people, to enable them to survive the Roman occupation while being true to God, to maintain the Kingdom in their hearts despite the presence of the occupying pagan and Gentile power [ … ]
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Office Of Readings | Friday, Lent Week 1 | From The Mirror Of Love By Saint Aelred, Abbot ‘Christ, the model of brotherly love.’ Who Was Saint Aelred Of Rievaulx? Saint Aelred of Rievaulx presents the highest expression of Christian love: the love of one’s enemies. His reflection is deeply rooted in the Gospel, particularly in Christ’s own example on the cross, where Jesus prays, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” For Aelred, this moment encapsulates the essence of divine love—self-giving, patient, and without retaliation. Aelred was a 12th-century Cistercian monk and abbot of Rievaulx Abbey, known for his writings on Christian friendship and love. His spirituality was deeply influenced by Saint Augustine, Saint Bernard of Clairvaux, and the monastic tradition, particularly in its focus on the imitation of Christ. This reading is a reflection of Aelred’s broader theological vision, where love is not merely an emotion but a profound act of spiritual transformation, a means of becoming Christ-like. Aelred emphasizes Christ’s willingness to endure humiliation and suffering without anger or resistance. Jesus allows himself to be spat upon, blindfolded, scourged, and crowned with thorns—acts of extreme cruelty—yet Christ responds with silence and peace. He is mocked and crucified, yet he prays for his persecutors. Jesus offers not only forgiveness but also an excuse for the actions of those who tormented him: “they do not know what they are doing.” This extraordinary response defies human instinct, which seeks justice and retribution. Aelred sees in Christ’s attitude the perfect model for the Christian life—one that transforms suffering into love. Aelred’s words echo the call of Isaiah, where the Suffering Servant is “like a lamb led to the slaughter, silent before his shearers.” Aelred invites the reader not just to admire Christ’s patience, but to embody it in their own struggles. Aelred’s theology of love is drawn from both Augustinian and Cistercian thought. Like Augustine, Aelred sees love as the ultimate path to God, and like Bernard of Clairvaux, he understands love as an active response to divine grace. Aelred extends this concept to love for one’s enemies, arguing that true love must be universal because if love excludes enemies, it remains incomplete. Forgiveness is not weakness but strength, overcoming hatred by transforming the heart. The fire of divine love must not grow cold, for resentment and injury should never diminish the Christian’s ability to love. This idea resonates with Saint Paul’s exhortation to bless persecutors and overcome evil with good. Aelred presents this not as an idealistic aspiration but as an essential mark of Christian holiness. Aelred’s words challenge believers to examine their own attitudes toward forgiveness and reconciliation. Many individuals struggle with resentment, past wounds, and a sense of justice, yet Aelred reminds Christians that true spiritual freedom comes not from revenge but from the ability to love as Christ loved. His teaching is especially relevant in a world marked by division, hostility, and conflict. To live this teaching requires a conscious decision to forgive, even when forgiveness feels undeserved, a focus on Christ’s example, keeping one’s spiritual eyes on Jesus’ patience and gentleness, and a heart open to grace, allowing God to soften any areas hardened by pain. For Aelred, Christian perfection is found in imitating Christ’s love on the cross. To love one’s enemies is to participate in the very life of God, for as the Apostle John declares, “God is love.” This reading encapsulates Aelred’s monastic and theological vision, in which love is not merely a virtue but the summation of Christian perfection. Love, when extended even to one’s enemies, makes a person like Christ. Love is the path to holiness, the fire that purifies the soul, and the mark of a true disciple. In this reflection, Aelred does not offer abstract philosophy but a deeply practical and demanding call to live as Christ lived. From The Mirror Of Love By Saint Aelred, Abbot The perfection of brotherly love lies in the love of one’s enemies. We can find no greater inspiration for this than grateful remembrance of the wonderful patience of Christ. He who is more fair than all the sons of men offered his fair face to be spat upon by sinful men; he allowed those eyes that rule the universe to be blindfolded by wicked men; he bared his back to the scourges; he submitted that head which strikes terror in principalities and powers to the sharpness of the thorns; he gave himself up to be mocked and reviled, and at the end endured the cross, the nails, the lance, the gall, the vinegar, remaining always gentle, meek and full of peace. In short, he was led like a sheep to the slaughter, and like a lamb before the shearers he kept silent, and did not open his mouth. Who could listen to that wonderful prayer, so full of warmth, of love, of unshakeable serenity – Father, forgive them – and hesitate to embrace his enemies with overflowing love? Father, he says, forgive them. Is any gentleness, any love, lacking in this prayer? Yet he put into it something more. It was not enough to pray for them: he wanted also to make excuses for them. Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing. They are great sinners, yes, but they have little judgement; therefore, Father, forgive them. They are nailing me to the cross, but they do not know who it is that they are nailing to the cross: if they had known, they would never have crucified the Lord of glory; therefore, Father, forgive them. They think it is a lawbreaker, an impostor claiming to be God, a seducer of the people. I have hidden my face from them, and they do not recognise my glory; therefore, Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing. If someone wishes to love himself he must not allow himself to be corrupted by indulging his sinful nature. If he wishes to resist the promptings of his sinful nature he must enlarge the whole horizon of his love to contemplate […]
